January 20th, 2009 by

Because sex can be painful for many reasons, and several factors could be causing the experience of pain during sex, finding the solution can be a bit like solving a mystery (a very painful mystery). Not all of these suggestions will apply to everyone, but here are some steps to take

Take notes. Try to figure out what’s going on. Ask yourself some questions: Read the rest of this entry »

January 20th, 2009 by

If you’re looking for basic information on masturbating, check out masturbation techniques for men and masturbation techniques for women. Great sex positions are ones that are comfortable, let you do what you want (by yourself or with partners), and don’t take away from your experience of sexual pleasure. Test your sex positions knowledge with our sex positions quiz.Betty Dodson, considered by many to be the Grandmother of Masturbation, often writes about the way we hold our bodies when we masturbate. Many of us keep very stiff (no pun intended) and still when we masturbate, and only relax once we have climaxed. In her books and videos, Dodson highlights the importance of moving while you masturbate.One aspect of this is the physical position we put our body in when we masturbate. Because masturbation is often considered purely for its functional benefits (rather than an expression of love or lust or creativity) most people don’t think about variations on sexual positions for masturbation. There are thousands of variations, but here are some basic ideas to spark your imagination.

Masturbation Sex Position - Stretch and Relax :

This position is the antidote for those who tense up and never move during masturbation. Before you begin, lie on your back, and stretch your arms and legs out as far as possible, making your body into an “X” shape. Try to hold the stretch for ten seconds. Do this a few times before you begin masturbating. As you masturbate try to keep your body stretched out as much as is comfortable, think about it as if you are trying to take up as much space on the bed as you can. Read the rest of this entry »

January 20th, 2009 by

There is nothing like the Periodic Table for sex toys; there are no exact definitions or answers as to what is and isn’t a sex toy, or what is the absolute difference between a vibrator, a dildo, and butt plug. But to make life easier, sex toys can be categorized by function:

Vibrators: A sex toy with a motor that whirrs, it creates extra stimulation beyond how you move it.
Dildos: Sex toys made for penetration that only move as much as you move them yourself.
Harnesses: Let’s you use a dildo without holding it in your hands. Most harnesses go around your waist, some go around your thigh, or can be strapped to furniture.
Anal Sex Toys: Toys that are designed for safe anal penetration. They will have a flared base, and have a smooth and seamless surface.
Lubricants: Essential for use with other sex toys, lubricant makes sex slippery, often more sensitive and more comfortable. Also required for any anal penetration.
Penis Rings: A ring that’s worn around the base of the penis that can create pleasurable pressure for the wearer. Some men report rings can prolong an erection. Read the rest of this entry »

January 19th, 2009 by

1.Every space is different, take the time to experiment.
Invest a little time playing with the light in your room. Each space is going to be different, the furniture that’s in the space, how it is positioned, the size and angle of the walls, the height of the ceiling. There are very few absolutes in lighting; it depends on what you’re going for.

2. Consider the sexual mood you are trying to set.
Are you going for a frenetic night of animalistic abandon in a club atmosphere? Or a slightly mysterious, titillating French brothel from the 20s? Or a cozy lair, comfortable enough to make even the most uptight let go of their inhibitions? What lights you use, and how you use them will depend on the sexual tone you are trying to set.

3. When you’re lighting for sex, dimmers are always good.
Consider installing dimmers on any overhead lights. This isn’t hard to do (as long as you have some good safety instructions, and make sure you flip the right breakers), and will make a world of difference.

4. When you’re lighting for sex, fluorescent is always bad.
Even the low wattage Ikea ones that are trying not to be offensive – they still are. Many fluorescent lights contain mercury, a toxin you just don’t want in your bedroom. Fluorescent lights are not stable - they rapidly flicker on and off, and though it is not necessarily perceptible to the eye, for many it causes headaches and fatigues the eyes. Also, it just doesn’t look good. Read the rest of this entry »

January 19th, 2009 by

Intercourse is traditionally used to describe penile-vaginal penetration, but it also gets used to describe genital sex involving penetration of an orifice (e.g. vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, oral intercourse). In medical texts (and popular culture) intercourse almost always refers to sex between a man and a woman. This incorrect assumption ignores the fact that sex between people of any gender may or may not involve penetration. Anyone can have intercourse, although it isn’t essential to a happy sex life or happy life overall.